My chief care should not be to find pleasure or success, health or life or money or rest or even things like virtue and wisdom--still less their opposites, pain, failure, sickness, death. But in all that happens, my one desire and my one joy should be to know: "Here is the thing that God has willed for me. In this His love is found, and in accepting this I can give back his love to him and give myself with it to Him. For in giving myself I shall find Him and He is life everlasting.
Thomas Merton, New Seeds of Contemplation